So, I may have taken a little artistic liberty with that screen grab from Pinterest, but it’s been bugging me ever since these “6 rules” first popped up on my boards. The caption states that there are “only” 6 rules the pinner requires from a guy when he inevitably proposes to her. Some of them make sense, but there are a couple that sound a bit demanding. Maybe I’m just a low-maintenance kinda gal, but I never made any demands of Brian when he proposed to me, nor gave him guidelines prior to it happening. I was just really happy he did it, and that was enough for me. Here is what Pinterest suggests he do…
Rule #1: Ask for my parents’ blessing.
Ok, I’m down with that. I’m sure there are some cases where the bride isn’t particularly close to her family and then it would be weird to do that, or if the bride is a little older/has been independent for a long time/has previously been married and it may not be necessary. But, this rule is still fine.
Rule #2: Make it a complete surprise.
I guess? I mean, I hate surprises. I’m the girl who always needs to know what is happening and when. (I’ve always thought Brian and I remind me of Phil and Claire Dunphy from Modern Family… “What’s the plan, Phil?!”) However, being proposed to was a good surprise, and one I could deal with. Ladies, I would suggest making sure that there is someone he can ask about what kind of ring you would want and let your mom, sister, or best friend know what you like and what you don’t. Or, maybe you’re like us and have looked at rings together, so it wasn’t a complete surprise that he actually did propose.
Rule #3: Use my full name.
You know something very serious is about to be said to you when you hear your full name. Fifteen years ago, it was probably one of your parents saying it, followed by, “if you make me pull this car over…” Full name is good, but if there is a special nickname, don’t be afraid to throw that in, too.
Rule #4: Get down on one knee.
Well, duh. With the exceptions of proposing while skydiving or participating in any other extreme adventure — or you’re this guy — take a knee, friend. But, after the freefall from space or building top is over and you’re both on solid ground, give that ring to your partner properly. Pro Tip: You also need to put it on her/his (hey, why not?) finger. I sort of had to remind Brian of that…
Rule #5: Have someone catch it on camera.
Here’s when it starts to get a little tricky for me. I would never demand of my fiance that he hire a secret photographer to capture the moment. That photographer would have had a horrible time trying to capture it considering Brian had the ring for about a month and couldn’t figure out when or where to do it. I’m glad that we didn’t have someone else there because it was a very special moment for just the two of us, and as much as we love our family and friends, I’m glad we got to have a little bit of private time together just being engaged. While this isn’t a terrible demand (or the one that irks me the most), it is pushing it, in my opinion, especially if you’re not into The Bachelor(ette) style proposals.
Rule #6: Make sure my nails are done!
What? No. I’m sorry, that crosses the line for me. I’m sure lots of money has already been spent on getting a nice ring and hiring that photographer (unless its an heirloom ring and a family member is hiding in the bushes somewhere…), and I would feel bad about him shelling out an extra $40 for me to get my nails done “randomly.” I’ve never asked Brian for a manicure, and I don’t think I’ve ever gone for one while we’ve been together. I typically just buff them to a shine myself. If my guy suggested he treat me to a manicure out of the blue, I would start to suspect something, breaking Rule #2.
Most of these “rules” are just common sense when you’re proposing to someone, and others seem a little too much. What are your thoughts? Is there something that your sweetheart must absolutely do to get you to say yes?